It’s also not Swedish (it has over 230 million members worldwide) but is very popular in Sweden – primarily because it’s free. It's also gained a bit of a reputation as a hook-up site, so if you're looking for something more serious it's perhaps best to read on.This site is perfect for those of you who love to take magazine quizzes and questionnaires.One of the most common places to find a partner is at a nightclub (or a mutual friend’s party), which may seem pretty obvious.However, the way to meet someone there is more subtle.In a nutshell, it goes something like this: A) Meet at a mutual friend's party. It is also worth mentioning that one can also have a fika with a friend, colleague, family member, or neighbor. During this "fika" Swedish non-date, things are a little stilted and awkward as both parties pretend that nothing happened last Saturday night, and politely and awkwardly ask questions about the other person, usually beginning with "Where do you live?," descending into a discussion about the difficulty and frustration of the Stockholm housing market, and complaining that you have had to move seven times in the course of six months.I know that it will seem ungrateful to be accusing my host country of being a nation of stingy alcoholics, and I'll be the first to admit that a few drinks can be a fantastic social lubricant. D) If you're lucky, you are sober enough to save the other person's telephone number in your mobile, AND to put it under the correct name.
We talked, laughed, and I somehow managed to pay for her – something many Swedish women, I knew, were not used to. I asked her to dinner, assuming the answer would be an automatic “yes.” Instead, I received a text message explaining that dinner would feel “too much like a date.” In all my 21 years, I had never been so confused. A few weeks after her – whom my friends only refer to as “Miss A” – there was yet another girl. We hung out every day for about a week, and finally one night she spontaneously invited me over for dinner. She had poured her heart out to me, displayed the entire spectrum of human emotion, told me things she said she had never told anyone else – or so I thought.
Curiosa prepares to wrap up her almost seven-year sojourn in Sweden, she shares her revised reflections on Swedish mating and dating with The Local.
This guide may not help you find your Swedish Valentine, but it might just shed some light on the tantalizing mystery known as the strong, silent Nordic type.
Many people regard those who only hang out in the bar as suspicious*. If you catch somebody’s eye, and the two of you look at each other for more than a second, then you’re good to start dancing with each other (at this point, you don’t even have to ask about the dance, you both know it’s coming).
From the moment the two of you start dancing, the rules aren’t as strict as before.